Claret - I’ve been reading your profile and found the various places in the US and Holland that do this. Definitely interested in exploring further depending on the full disclosure of my diagnosis. Also looking at HIFU, cryo and VTP.
Decided for now that I need a clearer idea of exactly what I’m dealing with. I seem in some ways to be more concerned with ED, incontinence and shortened penis length, possibly still in denial about really how serious this potentially is and that these things may turn out to be the least of my worries. At the same time not relishing the possibility of dealing with these things for years, decades?
Reading the various back stories and profiles in here is somewhat sobering (and also encouraging at times) and I’m perhaps getting ahead of myself with the naive assumption that survival is a given. Lyn, as you pointed out, there seem to be a number of younger guys who discover this and subsequently succumb to this disease in very short order.
Have to admit I’m a bit all over the place emotionally, which is not like me and has caught me by surprise. Everything seems fine and I’m just getting on with things and then out of nowhere I just feel incredibly sad. Guessing this is normal :)
Once I’ve had this next consult I then also need to let my kids know what’s going on. They’re great lads but even though the youngest is in his mid teens, I’m not sure how they’ll cope.
My wife has been great, I really couldn’t ask for anyone better to be at my side through this and I’m pretty sure we’ll deal with things one step at a time.
I think I can live with horrific side effects, post surgery/RT, if I can be convinced, with evidence that it’s necessary - I’m just not there yet.
I’m fortunate in many ways. I have some health cover via work so will be seeking second/third opinions and I can also release savings/house equity if needed for self funding of focal therapies if that’s the way I think is best. My family are mostly grown up, with the exception of my teenage son - but it’s not like they’re toddlers or as if we were in the planning stages.
Still. It’s a shock. Given I’d quite happily spend weeks trying to decide on the best TV, laptop, lawnmower etc to buy, coming to a decision on this is going to take a little bit of time. In the meantime, going to work, putting my happy face on and no one is any the wiser. I’m fit, not overweight, don’t smoke, look healthy - not that the cancer gives a sh1t
Incredibly thankful you lot are out there - the amassed knowledge, experience, compassion and sense of humour here is humbling.