Hi Bry.
Your brilliant news has made my day, mate!
Thanks for posting your story, it shows that sometimes things aren't actually as bad as they seem.
Although, I had high grade cancer, two years post op, it seems to have gone. Sometimes, like you, I feel guilty posting my good news on here, when others, who I now class as friends, are struggling to keep on top of the disease.
However, without posting success stories, this site would become even more biased than it already is to poor outcomes.
I'm thrilled for you and your family mate. 👍
May be, as way of celebration, it might be an idea to buy your 3 year old daughter, a keepsake. She won't have a clue for it's for, but everytime you see it you'll be reminded how you managed to side step cancer. When she's much older you could perhaps tell her of its significance and how dad avoided the big C.
Every time I get an udetectable, I treat my two grandkids. They dont know I've had cancer, it would have upset them too much. However, if things continue as they are doing, I might tell them that grandad had and beat cancer. It might improve my street cred. 🙂
As for your experiences of cold and uncaring consultants. In my opinion, like any profession, you get very good ones, very bad ones and most sit somewhere between. When diagnosed, cancer can be all-consuming. You often feel vulnerable and bewildered. Yet to most consultants you are just another patient. Just another number in the system.
My op was cancelled twice. Both times, at the last minute, when I was all gowned up and ready to go under the knife.
The second time, I was in a make shift waiting room with my wife, when the surgeon came in and told us that they'd run out of time to do the surgery. I was devastated. My wife was in tears, and I followed suit. Until then, he'd appeared a bit aloof and uncaring, but on seeing how distressed we were he sat down next to us and put his arm around me and said how sorry he was. I shall never forget the compassion he showed that day. I've convinced myself that when he eventually did the surgery, he remembered how upset we'd been and he performed his very best for us.
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