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Posted 20 Aug 2014 at 23:57

I added Barrington's name to my Absent Friends thread earlier, so NO, he will not be forgotten.

Thanks Simon for putting the photo from Karen on here, just as we wish to remember him, bril !

R I P TG.

Chris and Shirley

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 00:04

I am so sad to see this day come. I had the privilege to know and meet Barry and had nothing but respect for him, even when we didn't see eye to eye. Now he has gone on that final cruise and won't be coming back.

God bless you sir and may you rest in peace.

Nil desperandum

Allister

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 00:18

So sad to receive this news. RIP fellow sufferer,

Steve

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 01:11

My deepest sympathy to you Karen , James and the whole of Barry's family. Every know and again in one's lifetime you come across someone that is extra special, someone that makes an impact , someone that leaves there mark in the world. Barry, Barrington, TG you certainly left your mark.

Spursspark once called you a PCA Warrior, and to quote Chris B, A totaly positive inspiration to us all.

When I said yesterday Fly Free I had no idea how soon your new journey would start. Soar above us and look down every now and again.

BFN

Julie X

NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 01:28

Lost for words another good man taken from this forum.It was good to hear you managed to get home for a short time and finally pain free.

You will be in good company on your final journey Mo's Mic my Eric what a trio you will be plentry of humour.

My heart goes out to Karen and family at this sad time.

Barry rest in peace .

Carol

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 01:59

All

Thank you all for your kind words, it truly means a lot to me and Karen. The family opened a couple of bottles of champagne to celebrate his life.

I'm devastated I've lost my father, hero and more importantly who the hell am I going to moan about the England cricket team with going forward, ok so we beat India but as Geoffrey Boycott said our mums could beat them using a stick of rhubarb as a bat. (Cricket fans will get that)

I would "thumbs up" all the postings but takes too long. So please treat this as a "thumbs up", I have read all posts I promise.

I may of met some of you only briefly in Leicester and some only via postings on dads thread but I know you all meant a great deal to him. I'm not aware of the 2nd group / website so if you can send me a link I would be grateful.

I will update you with funeral details as and when.

The picture, linked on a tread above, summed him up. He made my kids walk Poppy with him dressed like that and they loved it. They will miss him badly.

Wishing everyone best wishes.

No one son. James

Life is for living someone once told me, so go and live!

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 07:30

A wonderful man and good friend has left us.

It was a pleasure to have known you sir.

All my sympathies to Karen and family.

Chris

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 09:50

So sad to hear, I have been following Barry's thread for over a year, the title itself was such an inspiration for all of us on here!

Thank you so much for all the help that you gave to us Barry with your advice.

God bless you and your family at this sad time.

RIP

Alison xxx

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 13:10

Barry was a very special person, one who went out of his way to help others and continued to do so even when he was experiencing great pain and knew his remaining time was short. He died like the brave soldier he was, someone who was an example and inspiration to so many. My sincere condolences to Karen and family.

Barry

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 13:17

Thank you James for such a wonderful post.

Anyone reading that would have no doubt at all that you're your father's son.

It was like reading a post from Barry himself.http://community.prostatecanceruk.org/editors/tiny_mce/plugins/emoticons/img/smiley-wink.gif

The 'other site' mentioned by Karen was Bollocks2PCa and your dad had been a big part of that 'naughty boys' (and girls) group for years.

He will be a huge miss at our Leicester meet-ups in June, and the December ones in London.

He was one of the nicest, bravest, funniest guys around and loved by all.

http://i1235.photobucket.com/albums/ff437/R_U_NUTZ/0%202014%2008/2014BarryToursMemoriam.jpg

Did you know, he once came to Leicester dressed as a urologist, with hospital uniform, stethoscope and an ID badge reading 'Dr Ben Dover'?

From us all at B2PCa, please accept our sincere condolences. Yesterday was the saddest day for all who knew your dad, and our hearts go out to you, Karen and the family. Your dad was hugely proud of you all.

It was good to finally meet you on 21st June this year.

Warmest wishes,

George

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 18:14

George, Barry would have probably done a better job as a urologist than a lot of the ones we've come across. What a great story !!!

Fiona.

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Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 20:28

Sad news indeed that Barry has left us.

My condolences to Karen, James & family. I have no doubts that Barry's spirit will live on within you all.

As will memories with all of us of his humour and determination to enjoy life to the full.

Rest peacefully.

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 21:51

Written by James (number 1 son). Dad left me this note to type on his behalf. George can you post a copy of this on the other website?

Hi all

When you read this I will no longer be on this wonderful land of ours. Do not mourn me, miss me perhaps, but do not mourn. I have lived a fantastic life well beyond anything I could have dreamed of. Seen the world, have had the best friends including so many on this site. Most of all though had such a loving family with Karen being the love of my life closely followed by James, Jacqui, Chris, Lisa, Laura, Jo, Dave, Irene, Graeme,Lisa and my faithful Poppy.

However the aim of this note is to give newcomers to PCa hope and inspiration. I was diagnosed over 15 years and had RT 15 years ago in July 1989. Follow up treatment HT etc was never offered all those years ago and of course RT wasn't so well defined.

For 14 years I lived a full and active life, playing volley ball, cricket etc. I repeat 14 years I lived life to the very full.

It wasn't until April 2013 that I had some pain but even that didn't hold me back too much.

From Feb 2014 I have had problems and I won't pretend that life since then has been easy. I have however had the best care in my superb local hospice with the support from my dearest Karen.

My final message is:- I lived a full enjoyable life for 14 years since being diagnosed. I never looked back and said "what if" since being diagnosed as terminal on 2nd March and given a very short life span, I fought as much as I could and 5 1/2 months is a longer time than any of us could have expected.

So yes there is hope, be positive, there is so much medication / treatment in the not too distant future.

Most of all

Life is for living - make the most of it

God bless you all

Barry (alias Barrington) retired!

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 22:02

James, thank you so much for posting, and how typical of Barry to write and arrange for you to post such a wonderful and thoughtful message.

Barry has always been such a special friend to so many of us, always thinking of and helping others no matter what he was going through. As we go on day by day we will remember him so often and try to live up to his wonderful example.

You are all in my thoughts, love Janet, xx

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 22:03

Many thanks, James, I have done just that.

What a remarkable note left to us by a remarkable man.

Barry,old friend, we salute you!

George

B2PCa

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 22:04

Topgun's funeral is 12:15pm 2nd September at Weymouth Crematorium, Quibo Lane, Weymouth DT4 0RR.

Karen has asked for flowers from close family only, but donations would be welcome to either The Joseph Weld Hospice, or South Dorset prostrate cancer support group. Karen will be making a donation to the Joseph Weld Hospice, where TG spent his last weeks. I will provide details of how to do this later.

The funeral will have a military theme, so wear poppies or Help the Heroes insignia would be appropriate.

James (No one son)

User

Posted 21 Aug 2014 at 22:06

Ahhhh Barry, brought tears to my eyes.

God bless you.

xxx

User

Posted 22 Aug 2014 at 00:04

Thank you James, what an inspiration your father's last message was, and thanks for the information for the Crematorium, we hope to be there.

We have 'bought' a Poppy placed at the Tower Of London which we will dedicate to Barrington, R I P.

Chris and Shirley

User

Posted 22 Aug 2014 at 00:57

So sorry to hear this news. I never met Barry but followed his story on here and also saw all the support he gave to others. I am sure he will be sorely missed by everyone.

Deepest condolences to his family. I hope you take some comfort for the special life he led and the high regard he was held in.

Lorraine x

User

Posted 22 Aug 2014 at 09:35

Wonderful touch from Barry and typical of the man. I had intended to go to Barry's funeral but sadly I will be out of the country on that date. I will in fact be in Hong Kong which I know from talking to Barry is one of the places he has great memories of. So at 7.15 pm on the 2nd, (HK is seven hours ahead) I will raise a glass of Tsing Tao to Barry and be with you all in spirit as you celebrate his wonderful, unique and so memorable life.

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