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Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 14:13

The dreaded letter arrived today giving me an appointment not to be missed.Saturday the 8th August. I had been told it was to be the 19th and made all my plans around that but the sooner this is over the sooner I can move on. Being totally honest I am somewhat scared now, the reality of the diagnosis, the discussions on treatment, reading of others experiences on here and knowing what is to come in a few days time. I really thought I had got my head around it all but the move forwards has taken the wind out of sails but hopefully that's only a slight mental blip and I will overcome that in a couple of days.

 So.... the checklist is nearly complete with things to get, do and boxes to tick.

 

Baggy underwear                 ✔      Loose jogging bottoms        ✔

Loose Shirt                          ✔      Peppermint water                ✔

Stand for catheter bag         ✔       Various wipes and Dettol      ✔

Pads and pants                   ✔        Mattress cover                    ✔

Prune juice                         ✔        Cranberry Juice                  ✔

Books                                ✔        Tissues                              ✔

PFE  ongoing                      ✔

 

Any omissions and advice from those who have been there before me gratefully received!

 

Wobbly Dick

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Posted 13 Aug 2015 at 16:47

Time for an update. The last four days have been a revelation to me in all sorts of ways. I took a great deal of comfort from all the posts on here from those who had gone before... and was somewhat scared by some of the comments from others who had posted of their personal experiences so I thought I would add my own experiences to the melting pot.

I was surprised that the only pain relief prescribed by the Docs was to be 2 Ibuprofen and two paracetamol four times a day so purchased half of Boots annual delivery of Co prodomaol and more Ibuprofen to deal with the anticipated agony. Hmmm. Waste of money as they are all still in their boxes unused and I am now down to half the allowed dose from the docs as the actual pain has been very manageable ...so far. I must have been one of the lucky ones with regard to trapped gas in the shoulders etc as that didnt happen. There was and still is a huge amount of gurgling and rumbling from my tummy which is and has been quite painful but that is getting better. The advice on Dulcoease and Lactulose was heaven sent. I have been taken them since day one and was gratified that the movement prompted by them worked and whilst still not back to "normal" it has not been the excruciating experience I was expecting. Definitely one for those that follow to put top of the list.

The new look plumbing system I left hospital with whilst functional was a huge disappointment in its functionality. Having been advised to try to drink Britain dry to ensure the bladder etc was flushed through and working at its best capacity the capacity of the normal leg bag proved woefully inefficient to perform its function. The drive from my Hospital to the bosom of my home takes about 45 mins normally but my wonderful Angel of Mercy took pity on me and the usual Grand Prix drive along the A30 was reduced to a more sedate, less bumpy afternoon amble with the accompanying tailback probably reaching Cornwall by the time we turned off on to more rural roads. At this point, taking a moment to relax I observed a rather large bulge within my copious new trousers. The smutty minded of you can go and stand in the corner. Hopefully that will follow in time but this bulge was at the side of my leg which on examination revealed the 500ml supplied bag was clearly not suitable for the current output of the new plumbing system. Throwing all the newly gained knowledge of how to empty the said receptacle is a aseptic way with regard to hygiene contamination and sterility, a turn off the main road into a farmers field entrance and a painful exit from the car to a vertical position to allow my medical team, Sarah, to put her skills to the test and release my efforts directly to the ground. I suspect the lesser of two evils as the bag was full to capacity and clearly would have resulted in excess internal pressure for the remainder of our journey home. I apologise to the unknown farmer whose grass may have been killed for evermore but my need exceeded an area of grass in the scale of things.My level headed nursing team (bless her cotton socks) calculated that on my current fluid intake my expulsions would also exceed the capacity of the larger super de luxe night time receptacle which would also reach capacity during my newly extended sleep cycle. With true devotion to her patient, setting her alarm for the middle of the night did reveal the night bag was full and needed changing which was accomplished almost without waking me. Another lesson learnt.

I have been exercising as recommended with slow gentle walks of a few yards, a few times a day and have built that up to three wanders of about a 100yds a day. The initial efforts could be described as the stagger of a drunken docker on a Saturday night have now been replaced by the slow but purposeful wander of an aged gentleman on a mission. I am now able to walk standing rather than slumped over and lift my feet rather than shuffle. All good things. However, my capability for sleep and laying flat on a bed semi comatose for hours has come as a bit of a shock. Perhaps my expectations of my resilience and fortitude were misplaced. I seem to be able to "go for it" in short bursts of a couple of hours followed by a similar period of rest. Finding the happy medium between the two whilst still elusive will follow in time.

One minor hiccough ( those, ordinary coughs, laughs and sneezes have a new meaning in pain now) was my choice of clothing for the return from Hospital and my new layabout chavy look for lounging about at home. I took the advice and went from a large size in both underpants and tracksuit type trousers to an extra large. Hmmm. Slight mistake. I seem to have the girth of a Hippopotamus now and would suggest a XX large would have been more suitable but I may be at the forefront of a new look in fashion if not in comfort.

Like all of us, its not an experience any of us wanted and the chosen treatment recommended is a difficult decision to accept and take forward. Despite any appearance of bravery or acceptance I was whilst calm and accepting, a nervous scared gibbering wreck inside for what the procedure and its implications were for me. Its certainly not a bed of Roses but....from my current experience it hasnt fulfilled my terror filled thoughts so far.

I am hugely grateful for the tips and support from the members of this forum and hope that my musings of a few days with more to follow are a crumb of comfort to others who join us on a difficult journey. Together we are able and willing to help each other!

Recovering Dick

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Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 14:13

The dreaded letter arrived today giving me an appointment not to be missed.Saturday the 8th August. I had been told it was to be the 19th and made all my plans around that but the sooner this is over the sooner I can move on. Being totally honest I am somewhat scared now, the reality of the diagnosis, the discussions on treatment, reading of others experiences on here and knowing what is to come in a few days time. I really thought I had got my head around it all but the move forwards has taken the wind out of sails but hopefully that's only a slight mental blip and I will overcome that in a couple of days.

 So.... the checklist is nearly complete with things to get, do and boxes to tick.

 

Baggy underwear                 ✔      Loose jogging bottoms        ✔

Loose Shirt                          ✔      Peppermint water                ✔

Stand for catheter bag         ✔       Various wipes and Dettol      ✔

Pads and pants                   ✔        Mattress cover                    ✔

Prune juice                         ✔        Cranberry Juice                  ✔

Books                                ✔        Tissues                              ✔

PFE  ongoing                      ✔

 

Any omissions and advice from those who have been there before me gratefully received!

 

Wobbly Dick

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Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 14:31

Hi Dick
Thunderbirds are go ! All looking good. I can't really think of much else but get some dissolvable Co-Codamol and Ibuprofen tabs of your own. They don't always send you home with many. And some Milk of Magnesia. Softer stools are easier to pass. The pain isn't too much mate honestly , but get it covered and don't stop too quick as it catches back up with you. You can have co-codomol ( Paracetamol and Codeine ) and Ibuprofen all together which is about the best pain relief you can get off prescription. Make sure you eat well and milk of magnesia as painkillers can constipate you.
Don't worry , your mind is made and you will be fine. I reached an acceptance after the initial denial and fear. I still have that acceptance 6 weeks post-op and my wife and I are just moving forwards with our new life. All the very best Dick
Chris

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 14:47

Good luck Wobbly Dick!!
I'm sure that you will cope magnificently, once the wobblyness has passed.

Since the decision is made then best to get it over with asap. Hopefully the weather will be conducive to relaxing in the sunshine as you recover.

You'll may want more than one mattress cover (one on, one in the wash)
Maybe a radio as well as books. Easier to lay back and listen to than hold up a book, especially if you follow cricket?

I'll be away for the 8th so will give my best wishes now.

Listen to your body. If you are tired then rest.

All the best
Sandra

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 16:06
Hi fella,

4 months since I was in the very same head space. The reality suddenly hits home and a little fear and doubt and ' why me ' sets in. On the day of the op once the asssessments came and went my good lady said I just became very calm and I told her to go home and I would see her after. A kind of calm acceptance came over me and I put my faith in the professionals. Once the anaesthetic kicked in I remember nothing until I woke up.

Post surgery all the previous advice I concur with especially the constipation issue.

I wish you well on the 8th I will be thinking of you as I watch Bury at Doncaster Rovers.Keep us all posted.

Paul

THE CHILD HAS GROWN, THE DREAM HAS GONE
User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 17:09

Hi Dick,

Looking at your list I'd say you pretty much have everything covered......

It may vary with each hospital, but I was discharged with more than adequate pain killers, and also plenty of laxatives ( Senna and Dulcoease )  to take daily after my procedure before I had chance to become constipated.

As others have stated, don't overdo things post op, follow any instructions you have been given by the medics and keep doing your PFE's
( most recommend you wait until your catheter is removed )

Always a bit of a worry going for any surgical procedure, but on 'the day' you will more than likely just 'go with the flow' and not have too much time to think about things.
Put your trust in the medical team that will be looking after you, and it will all be over before you know it.

Wishing you a successful procedure and a good outcome on the 8th

Luther


 

 

 

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 17:19

Dick B...fear not the op, its the recovery that lasts the longest, discomfort more than pain...good luck

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 18:02

and.......a bucket to put under the catheter bag, just in case you forget when going to bed which way the clasps go to empty / close it!

Flexi

ps. you should also ask for a spare pair of bag straps to make life easier when in the shower.

 

 

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 19:48
Best wishes Dick,

Seems you are more than organised although I agree with Chris ask your GP to prescribe Co Codimol as I had to get those for Stuart 3 days after the op. You can also take those along with Ibuprofen, he also enjoyed the peppermint Tea which helped with the gas afterwards. You also need y fronts after the catheter is removed to hold the pads.

Will be thinking of you on the 8th and in the meantime if you have any questions we are all here for you.

Trish x

Edited by member 29 Jul 2015 at 19:49  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 30 Jul 2015 at 13:02
Best of luck. The waiting is the worst. Best to think of it as moving on day x
User
Posted 01 Aug 2015 at 21:41
Good luck Dick.

It ain't so bad. The op was a breeze & I quite enjoyed the good sleep.

As others have said, keep mobile, keep the catheter clean & take it easy. The hardest bit for me was having a poo. I ended up with a catheter for 6 weeks following a few post op complications (my urethra healed up & I ended up in A&E).

Relaxing the bowls, induced a bladder spasm every time. I got a bag of puppy pads in the end & placed them around the loo as blood & urine leaked every time.

I made a point of getting up at 7.30, showering, shaving, dressing & avoiding daytime TV. I dreaded the thought of being sat in a chair, stinking of wee with an unshaven face in my PJ's.

The only real pain I had was in my abs for a few days after the op. Avoid sit ups lol. I'm an expert kayaker & fortunate enough to know how to Eskimo roll. This procedure was perfect for getting out of bed rather than sitting up. Ouch.

All the best

Carlos

Life's a Marathon. Run in peace.

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 16:38

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Tomorrows the big day. Nerves all gone for now but that may change in the morning. Updates to follow!


Dick

 




Good luck for tomorrow Dick.........You won't have time to think about things too much and it'll all be over before you know it.

You have my best wishes  for a successful procedure and a good outcome.

Luther

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 17:07

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Dick, it all happens pretty quickly once you arrive at hospital and you won't have time to be nervous.

 

Hope it goes well and will be waiting for updates to see how you are.

 

Trish

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 17:28

Hi Dick
You really have done the hardest bit already I promise you. It all happens like clockwork tomorrow. And u wake up with an angel holding your hand. All the very best and you'll get through it
Chris

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 18:12
Good luck Dick, all best wishes

Maureen

"You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think." A A Milne
User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 18:56
Best wishes for tomorrow and a speedy recovery

Arthur

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 19:54
I wish you all the best for tomorrow. There are many of us that have been where you are now and we are still here to tell our story.

Keep strong! You can do it!

Kindest regards.

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 20:03
All the very best fortomorrow

xx

Mo

User
Posted 13 Aug 2015 at 17:18

I love your post Dick . You're doing so well and very encouraging for others on the conveyor belt ! You're obviously a tough-guy re pain , but I wouldn't want to go on a drinking session with you . You'd be in the loo every time it was your round . I know your type . " Cart-horse " comes to mind .
You reminded me of waking up in hospital one afternoon after a REALLY needed sleep , having had all the tea coffee water etc . I felt a huge pain in my bladder , and when I looked at my 500ml leg bag it was fit to explode. Literally . Teetered to the toilet .
All the best on a continuing great recovery
Chris

User
Posted 13 Aug 2015 at 18:14

Far from being a tough guy, just a common or garden Woos ( if thats how its spelt) Just trying desperately to get through this in the best least painful way and return to my normal world. My nomination for  Britains Worst Patient is pending according to my nursing staff but she is bias.

 

Optimistic Dick

User
Posted 07 Sep 2015 at 15:04

My driving on a bumpy road Dick was very careful , it was you pushing your luck once again !!!!!

You have made an amazing recovery and i am so proud of you

Just remember if i catch you trying to jump over gates and lifting rubbish bins , you will be sent to the naughty boy corner again

xx

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Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 14:31

Hi Dick
Thunderbirds are go ! All looking good. I can't really think of much else but get some dissolvable Co-Codamol and Ibuprofen tabs of your own. They don't always send you home with many. And some Milk of Magnesia. Softer stools are easier to pass. The pain isn't too much mate honestly , but get it covered and don't stop too quick as it catches back up with you. You can have co-codomol ( Paracetamol and Codeine ) and Ibuprofen all together which is about the best pain relief you can get off prescription. Make sure you eat well and milk of magnesia as painkillers can constipate you.
Don't worry , your mind is made and you will be fine. I reached an acceptance after the initial denial and fear. I still have that acceptance 6 weeks post-op and my wife and I are just moving forwards with our new life. All the very best Dick
Chris

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 14:47

Good luck Wobbly Dick!!
I'm sure that you will cope magnificently, once the wobblyness has passed.

Since the decision is made then best to get it over with asap. Hopefully the weather will be conducive to relaxing in the sunshine as you recover.

You'll may want more than one mattress cover (one on, one in the wash)
Maybe a radio as well as books. Easier to lay back and listen to than hold up a book, especially if you follow cricket?

I'll be away for the 8th so will give my best wishes now.

Listen to your body. If you are tired then rest.

All the best
Sandra

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 16:06
Hi fella,

4 months since I was in the very same head space. The reality suddenly hits home and a little fear and doubt and ' why me ' sets in. On the day of the op once the asssessments came and went my good lady said I just became very calm and I told her to go home and I would see her after. A kind of calm acceptance came over me and I put my faith in the professionals. Once the anaesthetic kicked in I remember nothing until I woke up.

Post surgery all the previous advice I concur with especially the constipation issue.

I wish you well on the 8th I will be thinking of you as I watch Bury at Doncaster Rovers.Keep us all posted.

Paul

THE CHILD HAS GROWN, THE DREAM HAS GONE
User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 17:09

Hi Dick,

Looking at your list I'd say you pretty much have everything covered......

It may vary with each hospital, but I was discharged with more than adequate pain killers, and also plenty of laxatives ( Senna and Dulcoease )  to take daily after my procedure before I had chance to become constipated.

As others have stated, don't overdo things post op, follow any instructions you have been given by the medics and keep doing your PFE's
( most recommend you wait until your catheter is removed )

Always a bit of a worry going for any surgical procedure, but on 'the day' you will more than likely just 'go with the flow' and not have too much time to think about things.
Put your trust in the medical team that will be looking after you, and it will all be over before you know it.

Wishing you a successful procedure and a good outcome on the 8th

Luther


 

 

 

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 17:19

Dick B...fear not the op, its the recovery that lasts the longest, discomfort more than pain...good luck

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 17:31

D B

14 months on a lot is just a distant memory , so good luck for the 8th.

Some painkillers can cause constipation, I was told not take them "just in case".

Ask about the PFEs, like L I was told not with the catheter in, CJ was told something different.

Making an assumption here, some latex types gloves for when the OH connects and disconnects the night bag/ extension bag.

Keep mobile after the op but do not over do it, I was a bit slow getting motivated which made the constipation worse, NO straining.

Some ear plugs for the night(s) in hospital, my hospital did provide them.

Some really nice biscuits for in the night.  

Thanks Chris

 

 

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 18:02

and.......a bucket to put under the catheter bag, just in case you forget when going to bed which way the clasps go to empty / close it!

Flexi

ps. you should also ask for a spare pair of bag straps to make life easier when in the shower.

 

 

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 19:48
Best wishes Dick,

Seems you are more than organised although I agree with Chris ask your GP to prescribe Co Codimol as I had to get those for Stuart 3 days after the op. You can also take those along with Ibuprofen, he also enjoyed the peppermint Tea which helped with the gas afterwards. You also need y fronts after the catheter is removed to hold the pads.

Will be thinking of you on the 8th and in the meantime if you have any questions we are all here for you.

Trish x

Edited by member 29 Jul 2015 at 19:49  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 29 Jul 2015 at 20:24

You can get generic Co-Codamol at the pharmacy dissolvable without prescription and it costs a lot less . Unless he prescribes 3 months worth ! Its not expensive

User
Posted 30 Jul 2015 at 13:02
Best of luck. The waiting is the worst. Best to think of it as moving on day x
User
Posted 01 Aug 2015 at 21:41
Good luck Dick.

It ain't so bad. The op was a breeze & I quite enjoyed the good sleep.

As others have said, keep mobile, keep the catheter clean & take it easy. The hardest bit for me was having a poo. I ended up with a catheter for 6 weeks following a few post op complications (my urethra healed up & I ended up in A&E).

Relaxing the bowls, induced a bladder spasm every time. I got a bag of puppy pads in the end & placed them around the loo as blood & urine leaked every time.

I made a point of getting up at 7.30, showering, shaving, dressing & avoiding daytime TV. I dreaded the thought of being sat in a chair, stinking of wee with an unshaven face in my PJ's.

The only real pain I had was in my abs for a few days after the op. Avoid sit ups lol. I'm an expert kayaker & fortunate enough to know how to Eskimo roll. This procedure was perfect for getting out of bed rather than sitting up. Ouch.

All the best

Carlos

Life's a Marathon. Run in peace.

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 16:28

Tomorrows the big day. Nerves all gone for now but that may change in the morning. Updates to follow!


Dick

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 16:38

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Tomorrows the big day. Nerves all gone for now but that may change in the morning. Updates to follow!


Dick

 




Good luck for tomorrow Dick.........You won't have time to think about things too much and it'll all be over before you know it.

You have my best wishes  for a successful procedure and a good outcome.

Luther

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 17:07

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Dick, it all happens pretty quickly once you arrive at hospital and you won't have time to be nervous.

 

Hope it goes well and will be waiting for updates to see how you are.

 

Trish

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 17:28

Hi Dick
You really have done the hardest bit already I promise you. It all happens like clockwork tomorrow. And u wake up with an angel holding your hand. All the very best and you'll get through it
Chris

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 18:12
Good luck Dick, all best wishes

Maureen

"You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think." A A Milne
User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 18:56
Best wishes for tomorrow and a speedy recovery

Arthur

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 19:54
I wish you all the best for tomorrow. There are many of us that have been where you are now and we are still here to tell our story.

Keep strong! You can do it!

Kindest regards.

User
Posted 07 Aug 2015 at 20:03
All the very best fortomorrow

xx

Mo

 
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