I am so sad to see this Barbara; it must have been very upsetting for all of you and a shock for your daughter particularly. You have been amazing throughout Tony's illness but especially this last few months - do remember while you are being strong for everyone else that you also need someone to be strong for you sometimes. We used to have a wives' / partners' mantra on the forum ... who cares for the carer? Sometimes, we can be that support but you also need something real and tangible; a short break to get your hair done or walk in the rain or to just be Tony's wife and not his nurse. I hope that you have that support around you.